It has always been embedded in our brains that our identity is our name, our age, our gender and our class ever since we were in school. When we grew up, we learnt that it also involves our likes and dislikes, our passion and our hobbies. Later in working life, corporate designations became a massive chunk of our identity and it is only later in life, i.e. on the brink of retirement, we realize, none of them actually matters when it comes to our identity.
If you check the actual definition of identity on google, it clearly states; “A person’s identity is defined as the totality of one’s self-construal, in which how one construes oneself in the present expresses the continuity between how one construes oneself as one was in the past and how one construes oneself as one aspires to be in the future.” On simpler terms, it means “identity” refers to the capacity for self-reflection and the awareness of self.
When you were growing as a baby (Age 0 to 7), all the behaviours that were displayed by others were captured by your brain and stored by your unconscious mind. These are called unconscious imprints, and they result in either psychological barriers or blessings for the child for his or her future life.
Try to rewind your life and think about those days when you were into your teens (child and teenager 7-14) young and impressionable. You loved copying elders and other people whom you admired. You’re your parents, siblings, friends, teachers, neighbours, etc. You also observed a lot of people in order to behave like them, in a way, be like them.
You wanted to experiment with almost everything you were exposed to because of the constant curiosity in your wide eyes.
Assimilation after self-realisation is also a key factor contributing to this behaviour. Because of this conduct portrayed by kids, we need to make sure that they get powerful and confident role models during this crucial stage of life. This is the modelling stage of your behaviour where your identity is being moulded by your experiences.
The third stage, that is the 14 to 21 stage, is called ‘Socialising’. Just like in movies when the main character says, “I want to find myself, find my identity”, this is exactly what they mean. Here, the person is very eager to discover his/her identity and establish the same. Human beings establish their individuality vis-a-vis others during this stage. The person’s behavioural patterns, confidence, ambitions, keeps on developing throughout their life.
People don’t really understand the idea of identity and self- realisation because they are unaware that such a concept even exists. NLP wishes to spread the word and help us be the better versions of ourselves. In this chaotic world, it is very easy to lose your identity; hence, we at NLP provide you with an opportunity to grow as a person, as a human being and find your true identity.